'Brian' was arrested on suspicion of stabbing his partner in the neck.
Alan explains what an Independent Domestic Violence Advocate is and how he helped 'Brian' who had experienced domestic violence for three years.
Click here for the article and details of how to contact Alan.
"Fists and Chips"
a short radio drama by Keith Large starring Jeff Stewart and Carrie Hill
Click below to hear a short radio drama (11 minutes) that challenges stereotypes and highlights domestic violence against both men and women. It stars Jeff Stewart (PC Reg Hollis from The Bill) and Carrie Hill. Our congratulations and thanks to Keith, Jeff and Carrie for this thought provoking drama.
Domestic violence against men
Domestic violence against men has been around for centuries but has largely been a hidden issue. Call it domestic violence or call it domestic abuse - it isn't just women who are victims, there are abused men too. Male victims of domestic violence are increasingly speaking out and looking for support but there are few support services for them, bias against them and little understanding of the issues they face.
The news section of this site has several examples of violent women and their male victims of domestic violence because these are dramatic stories that hit the news. But emotional and psychological abuse are less obvious and don't make such good headlines unless they are cruel false allegations such as in The Daily Mail on 19 December 2011.
Abusive women are often able to use the bias of the Family Courts in favour of women to inflict emotional and financial abuse against men. Mothers are often able to restrict contact and to alienate their children against their fathers.
UK Government statistics show that one in six men will be victims of domestic violence at some stage of their life. There are plenty of reasons to believe that the real numbers of men experiencing domestic violence are much higher. Why then are there so few resources available to male victims? Why is violence and abuse by women against their male partners minimised, excused and even blamed on men? This website sets out to answer these questions and to provide a resource for male victims and their friends and supporters.
Male victims of domestic abuse are the forgotten victims.
Domestic Violence as Bullying
Lets not beat about the bush. In plain language domestic violence is bullying and both men and women can be bullies. Bullying can be defined as a 'systematic abuse of power'. Men tend to use more physical aggression and women tend to use more relational aggression. Both can have a devastating effect on their victim.
Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender
DAVRO is an acronym used by Dr Jennifer J. Freyd, PhD of the University of Oregon to describe the steps in victim blaming by offenders. Women can be particulary adept at this and can often convincingly portray themselves as victims to the police and courts, sometimes using tears to help in the manipulation.
Read more about it on the Shrink4Men website
Why don't men report domestic violence?
Click here for the BBC One Show feature by Dominic Littlewood about domestic violence against men
DVmen.co.uk does not provide emergency help or support. It provides information and resources to help better understand domestic violence by women and the experiences of male victims.
In an emergency you should dial 999 or contact your local Police Domestic Violence Officer.
If you need help or support for yourself or for a friend or relative consider contacting one of the helplines listed on this page.
Cover your tracks
For information on how to cover your internet tracks click here
For the sake of their children
In a recent research project 90% of men who called a domestic abuse helpline said their main reason for staying with their abusive partner was their concern for their children.
Take a look at the top ten reasons men give for staying in an abusive relationship
The Home Office Statistical Bulletin of 2009/10 estimates that among adults (aged between 16 and 59) 15.8% of men and 29.4% of women have been victims of domestic violence since the age of 16. It estimates that this represents around 2.6 million men and around 4.8 million women. Looking at the numbers of victims in the last year, 4.2% of men and 7.5% of women are estimated to have experienced domestic violence equating to around 677,000 men and 1,207,000 women. So on both of these measures about one third of victims are men.
Acedemic surveys overwhelmingly show that men are victims as frequently or more frequently than women.
New on website
Link to Keith's Blog - Male Victim of Domestic Abuse www.keithsstory.co.uk/